Amor

First off, I am no expert in love. But since I actually happen to have a one hour time-block to sit down on Valentine's Day jotting down some thoughts publicly (the past few weeks have been a total whirlwind!). So....let's talk about love!

Last Sunday at dinner, the host asked everyone how many times we all have been in love. I said 4.

'You were in love with 4 different men? Or you meant you loved 4 different men?'. A guest asked.

I actually did not think or know there was a difference. She explained - to her, love means love, 'in love' means you would want to literally sacrifice yourself for them, for their happiness, for their purpose in life, for their lives. I was shocked... how fortunate (or unfortunate) one has to be 'in love'??

To clarify, this is only her definition of 'in love'. Neither would I ever want my partner to sacrifice for me in any way. I would want him to be fulfilling all his dreams, purpose, mission in this life to the maximum extent possible. We both thrive!

But it does make me think ... at what level of depth exactly, can we actually say we love someone? And know that someone loves us back truly then?

No one can deny that 99% of this world seeks true love. Yet the majority lacks the courage to give love, so in turn, receives no love. Majority of people go into the dating world with a facade identity of who they want to present in front of the other person, so two people's encounter turns into four people's identities. Majority of people live their daily lives abide by the rules and motions without ever getting in touch with their own emotions, so they never care to see the other person's depth and who they truly are. Majority of people are fearful of pain after being heartbroken, so they'd rather never experience the joy of love again.

The truth is, love stems from you and your awareness.

Love stems from you - because when you become love and filled with love (easier said than done, I know). You will never seek love externally. That is when your eyes are clear and mind is open to find love, and keep love. And when someone chooses to leave, you remain in love. And know a more magical love story is already unfolding.

Love stems from your awareness - because when you truly know who you are, you accept and learn about your own thoughts, emotions and being, you then know how to see the other person and make them feel seen. Not from a place of projection, expectation, memory, imagination, conditioned past reactions that has nothing to do with this person. You see them as them, their light and darkness. You see who they were, who they are and who they are becoming. And you choose to accept them all. But of course, only do that if they do the same for you ;)

Happy vday xox💓